Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore
February 11, 2009 by admin
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Tell-Tale Signs That Your Husband Doesn’t Love You Any More
You, as a woman, must have realized that you can tell with amazing accuracy the feelings that your husband has towards you. This is the feminine intuition even though one may not be aware of it all appreciate its accuracy. A wife may feel about something being wrong in family life, though her husband may not have brought it up in an obvious way. He may appear distant, and this may start ringing alarm bells in his wife.
A very typical way that your husband might use to express his dissatisfaction with you is that he mentions it to you often enough times. When both of you first were wedded, he did not need to be reminded about expressing his love for you. Over time, you may have noticed, that the frequency of declarations of his love for you may have diminished. Then there might be a point in time where the rules are reversed and after you have expressed your love for him, he may return the compliment. This is a warning signal that he is becoming emotionally detached from you.
Then there is the aspect of how much time your husband is willing to spend with you. This will provide a sure-shot indication of his attraction for you. You may notice that he is lately spending more time on other pursuits like watching television, working on his computer etc. This is an indication that he does not love you any more and you should watch out for this kind of demeanor. Keep monitoring how much time he is really spending with you and you will get to know if your marriage is heading for a rough ending.
It is not only how much time your husband is spending with you but also how much intimacy you are having with him during those times. You should notice if he exhibits the same type of desire for physical intimacy and intercourse with you during those intimate moments. It is a fact that if a man loses love and attraction for his spouse, he will also lose the desire to be united with his wife sexually. Though there have been accusations of women losing sexual desire after some time has passed on since their marriage, men can be held responsible for such an attitude as well. Hence, if you notice that your husband no longer desires you physically, immediately the first thing comes into your mind is that he does not really want you any more.
My boyfriend of three years decided he did not want to be with me anymore. I was absolutely devastated; I’d call him up, cry, would say I had nothing without him, etc. This stupid behavior on my part went on for a year. Then, I said to myself; oh, I was good enough before for you but not now. Well, if he doesn’t want me anymore, then I don’t want him anymore. I kept saying that to myself over and over again, I don’t want you anymore. Who is he anyway. I gave him my time, my love and then he gets tired of it and walks off and leaves. I did an about face. Stopped calling, stood strong; you guessed it; now he wants me back. That is why I get such fun saying to him “I don’t want you anymore”.
Andrea
Good for you for setting your boundaries and finding yourself Andrea!
Makes you a stronger women finally knowing what you want and protecting yourself
after a very difficult and hurtful time.
Way to go!
Chy
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year, I have never felt more loved by anyone in my life, but lately he has been so different, he doesn’t just say I Love You unless I say it first. He acts as if everything that goes wrong is my fault lately and that he is always right, who knows that may be a man thing I don’t know but it seems like all I find myself doing lately is hurting. I don’t know what to do, I love him so much and don’t want to loose him, He says that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me but doesn’t want to right now, he says that the timing isn’t right. To me that says I’m just telling you this so that it will make you happy.
hi
My boyfriend and I were together for two years and lived together. Almost out of thin air, he told me he didn’t know if he was “still in love with me” but that he loved me, but didnt want to live together anymore. After he moved out, I begged him and promised to make things better, but he said his feelings had changed. I found out shortly after that he had found someone else, and he lied about it. Now I realize that the lies were abundant throughout our relationship. I still love him and am in love with him, when we broke up it felt as though I was dying. We had a really rough ending and it turned very hateful and angry. I still have strong feeling for him, but I refuse to shed anymore tears over someone who could treat me so badly and do the things that he did. I thought I knew him, but now he is a stranger. You never really know someone truely like you think you do. I know it will be hard and I am still hurting, but I will move on with my life without him.
Thank you!
Andrea,
As I was reading your comment I thought I was reading something that I wrote, our situations are literally EXACTLY alike. I am feeling exactly the same way and going through the same things
and I’ve got bad news for you, it didn’t get any better.
Three years later I am still dealing with the same thing, even after so many times Im pretty much begged him to say I love you once in awhile without me having to say it first
he blames it on something that happened to him in the past.
but its not fair, so why am I still around if its such a big deal?
I dont know
im scared that i will lose my bf. i love him sooooooo much but…..some times i feels that him don’t love me anymore.what must i do???plzzzzzzz help me!!!!
Hey ladies, I’ve been reading through your stories and am geeting an eerie feeling of familiarity. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years, in July 2007 h ebroke up with me and said he’d met somone else. Two months later, he wanted me back and realised his mistake. I rashly took him back thinking things would change, before the break-up he had been getting distant, only wanted to see me at weekends, only said “I love you” if I said it first (while never makingeye-contact I might add). Well, for a while it was great but we still had ups and downs, about two weeks ago I had achat with him as these things have been happening all over again and he said he wasn’t sure if he still loved me, that it was too late. He took a day to think it over and said he realised life without me would be pretty s***. Yet he is still distant, not very physical, not keen to see me or text me when he doesn’t see me. We never do things together at weekends anymore. I was supposed to be moving in with him this coming September but he still hasn’t told anyone about it, not even his current flatmate!He’s on awork night out tonight which makes me so nervous as that’s how he might the other girl. I wish I could say something wise and comforting to everyone else but I still don’t know if he is actually losing interest or if it’s all in my mind? Does this ring any bells for anyone? It’s making me so unhappy, to the point I’m getting shakey with anxiet an dcan’t even put my make-up on due to the shakes!
Anna, this sounds like a yo-yo relationship you can certainly do without! I’d put the brakes on of any future plans with him as he is just to indecisive. I think he want’s his cake and eat it to and you are providing him that. If he’s been on the prowl once he’ll do it again especially if he is unwilling to make any commitment to you now. He’s uncertain and unsure, you either know or you don’t when in a relationship and it sounds like he’s stringing you along out of convenience until he is certain and it may not be with you. Move on honey, he’s not deserving of you!
Admin
@yolande
Sometimes dear the hardest thing we have to do is become accepting the other is no longer in love. The love we have for our partner won’t fix his love for you. If he’s moving away in the relationship then it’s simply not meant to be and you still have Mr. Right waiting for you to find him in the world.
F**! love! men are a holes and that is all there is too it. they just enjoy the chase and act like they care until they really know you do and then they are disgusted and on to the next adventure. It doesnt pay to get any kind of emotional attachment to them,the minute they find out you’ve fallen for them then they use it as a form to manipulate you. The only men that are worth anything are men who are well established,confident in themselves and their faith and who are seriously looking foward to a family life. even then watch out because you always have to remain extremely respectful, proud to be a woman, and live your own life independently, trust me I know, I have experience too much heartbreak for being emotionally needy and so damn caring in my relationship and I see my brothers’ wives act the opposite and get exactly what they want. The old antic does hold true, fairy tale love and true love are all B.S. It is all a matter of respect and mutual understanding, and a man really should be the one doing most of the loving because woman still are the weaker sex, our only duty is to have a man we can respect and honor, that makes us feel valuble in thier eyes and keeps us honored to be a “woman”.
hello
(, my pain is beyond anything i felt before, iam depressed, struggling, hopeless, should i b reakup or what, he says he love smeand everything is ok, but, what if he is pretending, cause he doesnt want to take the first step and go ahead and break my heart.
i understand the shakey part, i am all nervouse, cant hardly breath, and feel my heart squized!, i a m crying x 3 days, i have this horrible feeling, that my bf doesnt love me no more, we are in a long distance relatinoship, and at the begining everything was perfect, now ,day by day ,he seems distant, emotionally distracted. he was caught driving drunk, and he couldnt drive x 2 years, no $,no license, no annything, i would love him, supporthim, stand by him, now he got his license back, a better job, buy a new house , and suddenly starts ignoring me, he is 9 years older than me, and i dont consider myslef thatugly, so why i am not longer good enough x him! he keeps saying he loves me and wouldnt ever leave me, but, wouldnt call me that often, keep conversations short, veryshort,. and 3 days a go stoped saying i love u ev erytime he hangs up on me. i am freaking out, i am going to lose him and i feel i am going to die,
Carloina,
You seem to be in the same boat as me! I have been thinking this over and none of us should be feeling like an unreliable (and indecisive) man is responsible for our happiness. It’s hard though, I’m still getting the permanently agitated shakiness! I have been thinking of telling my boyfriedn we need a bit of time apart, I figure if he doesn’t like the time apart and wants to give it ago and make an effort gteat. If not then I’ll know for sure that’s it. that would be devastating but anything’s better than being in limbo. Have you considered doing the same or are you frightned he’ll just be glad you made the first move and see it as a break-up? I can totally understand that but what have you got to lose?
Sorry, my typing is awful! I wrote Carolina as “Carloina”!
i have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now. i know it seems like a very short time but we got close very fast. i swear i saw marriage, kids, etc. at one point we fought a lot and he wanted to break up and i agreed. i asked him to get back a week later and he said he needed his space. about a month later he said he couldnt live without me and that he needed to be with me. 2 weeks later i hung out with an old friend. he asked me where i had been and i told him the truth. he got upset but he got over it. later that night he went through my phone and accused me of flirting with the guy. he left home that night said he just needed to get over it. the next day he was no longer picking up my phone calls. i messaged him 4 days later telling him how much he meant to me etc. and he said that “my heart and my mind saw all that they could see right now i no longer know where happiness lays nor do i want to at this point in time. i love you and i care about you but i cannot think about what you have done it hurts too much to think about it. i cannot deal with this it kills me”. in my mind i know that its done with and that i should move on, but my heart is still holding on. is he seeing someone else? is there hope in the future? Im so confused!
What he is doing it seems, is finding a REALLY good way to guilt you into believing this is all your fault. It’s not. Love holds no barriers, if he loved you nothing you did would matter. It’s a pretty pathetic excuse for him to use in coping out of the relationship making you feel bad. Time to move on sweety, he’s not deserving of you and sounds like he’d have ended up being a 100% control freak making you miserable in life, how dare he go through your personal things if even a phone highly disrespectful. The heart always weights heavy after breakups, it natures way of allowing you to learn from this lesson and move on so better prepared for the next. I know it doesn’t make it any less painful but sounds like this guy wasn’t Mr. Right. Mr. Right is to still looking for you so go find him!
Admin
Well I have found myself in a situation similar to some of you and don’t quite know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together about a year and a half and he is my life. I love him like I never thought I could love someone and up until about two weeks ago I felt confident that he felt the same. Almost as if a switch was turned though I don’t feel confident in his love for me at all anymore.
He has gotten impatient with me and criticizes everything I do, doesn’t return my calls, doesn’t cuddle me at night, sex seems very impersonal, in a disagreement he questioned why we are together and then tonight in mid conversation our phone went dead and at several attempts by me to call him back he is still MIA.
I have been suffering from depression, (I believe which has stemmed from my complete dissatisfaction of my job and lack of friends in a new city) I lately and feel like I have pushed him away. I am trying hard to correct the things that seem to be pulling me down but I think I am too late and don’t know if I can take losing him on top of all the other emotions I am trying to work through.
Isn’t it my turn to find Mr. Right that also thinks I am Mrs. Right?
I can’t figure it out if my marriage of almost 10 yrs is on the rocks or normal.
But for several years now, our sex life has yoyo-ed between erratic to none-existent at times. I find it upsetting I always have to initiate sex, be the more dominant one in bed & he often makes excuses he’s always too tired. Maybe it’s a normal marriage, having less sex going thro stresses of life & work? Also it’s as if everythings got to be about him before he’ll listen to me, like I feel we aren’t emotionally that close.
But he still often tells me he loves me. If we have money & I want/need something, he’ll get me most things for me, while he doesn’t care about himself. He never forgets special occasions birthdays etc & he’s always generous with gifts & specially picks out really nice cards with loving/affectionate versus’s. His face always lights up whenever he sees me & walks with/meets me places sometimes to make sure of my safety.
He does give me hugs & kisses, but rarely passionate ones -mostly pecks on lips & kisses on forehead or eskimo kisses as well, both in private & public. Wherever we go he mostly wants to hold my hand & takes me out everywhere & likes to spoil me when we have money. He’s always texting & phoning me every minute of the day. People are always telling me he talks a lot about me & thinks the world of me. But I just feel sometimes, he thinks of me more like a sister or friend.
Does this sound to anyone like a normal marriage or I’m worrying over nothing?
I have a boyfriend of mine for 3 years and we have a baby. At first our long distance relationship is very much good we keep on communicating each other saying how much we love an miss each other so much. But good things turn out into bad things last month he calls me and i didnt notice that he is calling because me and our baby where in the mall at that time and i’m so busy choosing clothes for my baby for her 2nd b-day and when i went get inside to store of earings there is a quite place thats the time i heared that my phone was ringing so i answered there he is very angry with me saying that why is me dont answer the phone right away i explained to him the things but he doesnt listen to me he told me that i have another thats why i didnot answer his call right away. he keeps on insisting that i have another guy the thruth is i really don’t have and why i will find another we have baby already and i’m contented with him.But he doesn’t listen to my explanation. He doesn’t call me and even send a messages unlike before he does it. When i send him a message to call me he just call me late at night and we talk but its different now unlike before we talk longer he likes to listen when our baby talk to him but now he doesn’t do it he just keep in silence. I don’t understand our situation now. He told me I’m tired of you do whatever you like to do. What does it mean? i don’t get his point
I have been with this Man for just about 5 years off and on again lived with him shortly after being together. the first year was all great, but recalling now back to then he was very controlling and manipulated me. My bad for allowing it. He eliminated my male friends said I had no need for any male friends that he should be my only male companion and that no male and female could souly be friends. So I allowed that to happen. Well after the year we started to have alot of issues he started off by just kinda not talking to me really nice and degrading me and then it got real physcl, I would leave or make him leave and then he would find ways to convince me it was gonna change or that I caused it and if Him and I would only change parts it would be better but I swear it was more me supposed to change. . . Maybe I am just hard up for love or what I think is love. Well he got into a bind last year when I had kicked him out after finding out he was lying to me for 5 months about where he was working and who is was working for and that he was now caught up into drugs. I felt so betrayed and kicked him out that only lasted a few days and then we were back to our cycle of trying to fix things but one nite he came by and was drunk and upset because I kicked him out of our home and told me all the things that were wrong with me and he was wasting his time and he left but not before he told me some choice words that I would not rather say. Well I left it at that and didnt hear from him for 3 weeks well one night i got a call from him from jail he was pulled over for not paying a fine well he called me apoligizing for all that went wrong and ask me not to leave him alone threw all this and the reason he is acting like this because now that he was arrested his Visa will be taken away and the process for his citizen ship is now on hold. Well now he is in a Federal holding area while INS figures out what to do for him. WEll that nite when he called from jail I fell for it and I have been there for him time and time again. He has cont. to talk to me like I am nothing. I dont leave because I love him and I dont want to leave him in his time of need. He continues to tell me things like he is mad because I have set up a myspace to keep in touch with family and friends and he is upset about it and he just wants me to say locked up in our house and I cant. Well he has told me that if he chooses to keep in touch and have something to do with his daughters mother who i would like to add was just a one night stand 3 months before him and I met and has done nothing but cause him and I greif!! but now he says it is his life and he will do what he wants with his life. I thought we were together and it was OUR life. On good days he says he loves me and says he is the way he is for outter influences. I dont know what to do. I am lost and torn help me please.
I have gotten involved with a mature adult gut who has two children, he has been nice he is humors, we dont talk often, but when we do we have fun and he shares stuff little personal stuff like where he is going for family vacations, calls when he went away and chatted with me for like 3hrs and then came back and when he did i may have asked that he calls more often.well he has a wife and a girlfriend on the side and i have a boyfriend and we really decided that we would just meet for the sexual encounters well i said that as i really wasnt looking for nothing but just comfort and now i want more. he always wants to know like how my friend is as he had met my best friend once when he took a friend of his and me and my friend out for dinner and we all got along and enjoyed ourself but i am confused as to wheter her really likes me. He is always interested in what i have been up to and he shares a little. i told him i just wanted the sex and no attachment or questions about each others personal life but he always seem interested in mine with my boyfriend.i dont know what to think
I have a great boyfriend, hes not from the same country as I, but we spend monthes together then a week apart. He said He’d like to move in, That I am “the one”, Hes a very proud and attractive type of man, Who has high self-love and dislikes every self-critiscm. He also told me that he has never loved a woman as much before as he loves me. At first I didn’t love him as much as he loved me, I knew that, I didn’t miss him that much when he wasn’t around. But I accidently grew very dependant on him, And started loving him so much that I can’t eat or do anything productive when hes not around. At the moment hes at home, and hes so cold towards me, If I would write “I love you” He wouldn’t even respond. I even wrote him a wall of text that expressed my deepest feelings, Yet he didn’t react the slightest. When he is here he is so very different, I can’t even go to the kitchen without he tags along, hes always near me and loving. We always have tons of fun when we are together always laughing and smiling, And in the 9 months we’ve been together, We’ve never had one single argue. Could anyone tell me whats wrong? what I could change? I need to know if it’s me theres something wrong with, or our relationship.
I have been with this guy for 2 yrs now. I have totollay given my whole heart to him.something i have not been able to do since my husband passed away 19 yrs ago…i have never let anyone that close to me before…feeling the way i do…i understand why…my problem is…my bfs x had him arreasted..he says he wouldn’t do anything for her…all his stuff is still at her house( its almost like he doesn’t want to let go) he goes over there whenever he needs something of his…i don’t think its right…never mind that her kids call him and hes right there for them(not his) giving or doing whatever for them…why??? i don’t get it???I would think he would of wanted to get his stuff out of ther ealong time ago…he has been talking about the past alot lately, hes remodeling his house and keeps referriong to everything he did in hi old house…i don’t know what to do…HELP
I competely understand every single ones of your post and as I read them I could help but cry and cried! As insanely crazy I am going I need some words of wisdom or advice…
I been with my bf for 4 years… He just broke up with me after a silly argument, 5 min prior to the argument he told me “I will talk to u in a bit… I love you” and then the argument stated before I thought he wud called and didn’t… I hv these problems cuz I always wants him to call cuz I hv little trust in him… And the I said sorry… He said he don’t want to be with me and for me to get out of his life and our relationship is over!
He doesn’t answer my phone call,
I went by to talk to him he doesn’t want to talk nor see my face. We always get into silly argument and fights and I am sure we can talk about it but the 1st thing that comes out of this mouth is “I don’t want to be wit u” I am torn.. But what I don’t get is he hv a key to my car… My car broke…he help my dad do all the running abouts to fix it… I was there and still he doesn’t talk to me… He told me not to call him no more… Never answer my call, turn his phone off but he help to fix my car!
Can someone tell me what’s happening here… Cuz I know I am acting desperately calling him and I Been
told not to call… But I just can’t help it… I am literally going insane… I feel he feel out of love with me even
tho I am head over hells inlove with him…
We had so many fights and we have broken up many times… And I always keep calling him back… He hv never called me back… I told me he can’t live like this and that’s y he doesn’t want to be with me… Any advice!????
I have a big problem I been with my ex for 13 years and we have four kids together then 7 month after I gave birth I found out he cheated on me and I tired to fix thing because I thought I did something wrong but it didn’t get better anyway it has been 9 month from the day I kick him out. Long story short he’s living with that girl and he tell me he love her but he say he can’t tell me how he feels about me he’s siad I won’t tell you how I feel our show you anything until when I come home. He also promise me and our kids he was coming back. What does that mean? And what do I do I feel stick and lost.
Its soo good hearing all these stories from everyone, looks like at some point we all go through this but it doesnt make it any easier! just wanted to say thanks, cos i dont feel so alone now and if other women can say ‘no’ and ‘bugger off then’, then so can I.
heres to not being the cake but having our own!!
carolina i totally agree with u. My bf n i hv been in a long distance realtionship for bout 2 years now. When we first started, it was all lovey dovey and now i feel he is slowly pulling away. more like he doesn’t care bout what we have going on anymore. We fight a lot and he always blames me. Yes i agree i’m not perfect and i do piss him off sometimes but each time i do, it takes him ages to forgive me and when i ask him if he wants a break or if he doesn’t love me anymore, all he says is “have a nice life and bye”(datz before we reconcile). I feel he wants us 2 break up but wants me 2 say it first. Like each time hez alone(without his brother) he is so sweet and always wants me onine and calls me like crazy…I’ll just end here coz i kud just go on n on n on. But my question is->WHAT SHOULD I DO?
hey ladies,
well im in the same boat of andrea but it seems much worse.me n my x bofriend dated a year 06-07 he broke up with me in the hardest way sayin he only saw me as a friend.thanks to his myspace i had found out he started meeting people (my bad cz i mad him the account in the first place)about 4 months went by we talked /hung out everyonce in a while..things got better he told me he didnt know what he had til he ventured out..dated another couple of months then he broke up with me again.he felt like he was draging me along cz he didnt know if it was love or just comfurt in a bestfriend.. 3 days ago it has been 3 1/2 years now he still doesnt know what he wants we havent been in a commited relationship or even seeing anyone us,just us as close friends acting like we r 2gether no commitment and now as of yesterday he finally descided to have the talk.he said”christina ,i love you like crazy,your amazin fun to be around and i love more then anything and how we r so close .your are my bestfriend..but i cant keep this up theres too much feelings to be around you and i feel if i hang out or see other girls ,i’ll hurt you..i just want us to be friends,i dont know what i want and i want to save you from hoping about a “us” future cz i dont know,i dont wanna say a promise i cant make right now..i dont know if this is that great love.Ive never just dated to see whats around .christina you were my 2nd everything..and i just want to know what else is out there but i need to know if we can still stay close friends,i couldnt be happy if u werent in my life..and i need to know if i do start dating or jus seeing other people ,if in my heart i dont feel for anyone else as strong as i do you..would you still love me enough to let me back in??”…this was and is the convo that breaks my heart to love someone completely and the other person not be sure of what they feel.the way i answered way simple “i do love you with all my heart and i want you to be happy.it will hurt me to see or hear things ,and i cant promise i wont be mad,but if this is what u need right now then go have fun…but if we do get back together n i let you in ,it has to be real ..you at that time need to know yourself well enough to say this is it..and if that day comes please only tell me bout the time with the others if and only if i ask about…” ..its been 4 days.i think im doing ok ..definitly crying none stop to sleep ,(but im starting to think thats my best way of letting things out right now)..im going out and having fun with the girls after work..but i guess im working progress..i dont think im looking for advice..i guess i just want feedback good or back..to be one in the situation is hard ,but to hear other out of it helps me realize im not alone….thanks for reading
xoxo
Im starting to hate men! i just broke up with my boyfriend for two yrs today. i dont feel like he is trying to value me, worst, i dont feel like he really did love me. Everything i had gone through for this relationship are all wasted. i am terribly devastated. im truly hurt. but i just realized that its enough. i have given him all i can give, yet he never showed any gratitude. im tired of loving someone who i know dont really love me.
I had been in a relationship for 7 years. I gave this guy all of me, I mean ALL of me. I had no life of my own, it was all about him, him, him. What makes him happy, what can I do to make his life better. And all the while he lied to me about everything, even teeny tiny things that didn’t matter, he cheated on me. He always kept me waiting for hours when we had a date, or just didn’t show up. But I didn’t care. This was my first love, and I loved him so much, I didn’t want to let go. Even though I knew it would be for the better, I kept on holding tight. We even lived together for 3 years. I wanted a child with him, I wanted to marry him. When I would ask him about it, he would brush it off, saying patience is key.
Last year I finally had enough. I found a picture of him and another girl, that’s when I decided to throw him out. He didn’t protest at all, he was fine with it. I broke down one time, when I found out he started dating this new girl right away. So I called him and cried, asking him to come back to me. He said no. But that was the last time I cried for him.
My life is so much better now without him. I am no longer depressed, much more independent, much thinner! Life is just a blast, because I am me again, and confident again. My ex and I are even on speaking terms again. He lives with this other girl now, and they are planning to have a baby. So it just made me realize it wasn’t meant to be.
So women/girls, if it feels like your relationship is just way too hard, and it hurts you most of the time, LET GO! Believe me, it’s much better that way.
Ladies, start spending time with guys that are into you. I find that we as women spend too much time with men that at some gut instinctual level we know is not right for us, but we overlook the signs and wait and hope that this one will work out. <>.
Did you know that you, Ladies, are in control of how the relationship goes. Stop giving your power away to men. You are all beautiful and worth keeping your power.
Thanks for your posts and comments!
I am here to tell you, when a man is into you, he is…and I know because I now have one after having decades of failed relationships with similar experiences I am reading here. You can have it too!
reading all these its like reading snippets of my own life… i had it all in the beginning. he was madly in love with me, God, i still remember what that felt like. we are still together, my gut says its bc of circumstance not bc he wants to or chooses to be here. he tries i know he does but when he’s not here i know without a doubt there is someone else who has caught his eye. i know we will end just like the i love yous he used to say, just like the physical desire he once had for me (so strong it would make me cry to think how much i meant to him), just like the happiness i once felt knowing he truly loved me. the hardest part now is being here with him knowing i will never have his love again knowing one day i will be just some girl he once dated… hes amazing hes kind hes the love of my life and hes no longer in love with me… heart broken just isnt enough to describe my pain.
I have been with my husband for 3 years but we have been together for five years and I wonder is there something wrong with me? He treats me as if me being in his life is an inconvienence to him. The physical part has went down hill after the first year of marriage. I mean I consider myself attractive. He always seems to find reasons not to be with me physically or just to spend some time together. And in front of other people he seems to find ways to humiliate me and he finds it funny!This humility seems to happen mostly in front of his family and they tend to humiliate me as well. He talks to me as though I am a child. I am a grown woman this is rediculous. And I have sat him down and told him how I feel but it’s not sinking in. Any advice?
3 years ago, my boyfriend end up our relationship, after two years of been together, it was awful, i didnt stop crying for about 2 weeks, even when i was decided to move on, some how, it was still hurting me. but i didnt call him, i deleted his number,changed my adress,even my hair color, i was decided to move on. every weekend i would go out with my frieds and make new ones, and still the pain would’n go away, but i didnt keep trying, 2 years after i meet a guy, friend of one of my friends, we date and i take it very slow, after 7 months i gived him a chance, Now im married and he treat me like im the best thing in the world, im in love, and funny thing, guess who is beging to see me? yes, my ex,the one who broked with me cause he say he didnt love me anymore. I dont care about him anymore, I love my husband, now i see things from a very diferent perspective, i dont even know why I even ever like that guy, he is not even cute. move on girls, do youself a favor, if he doesnt love you, then you gotta love your self more. good luck.
i have been dumped by my first boyfriend at 23…he cheated on me, tried ot get me pregnant and i moved to a new state for him. i was lonely,making no progress in my career cuz i was a college graduate, and the worst-i found out he got a girl pregant 4 months after we broke up! anyway i learned my lesson-it took me 2 years to get over him! but never let a man control you. how would your friend treat you? how would your family treat you? if the man in your life doesn’t treat you with respect-at least-then don’t waste your time being unhappy with him. be confident in yourself,work,buy cute clothes,get prettier,make more friends,travel,go to school. be proud of who you are and never put up with a man’s crap. i recently got dumped too. my fiance/bf of 15 months became distant, stopped calling me pretty, and started putting no effort forward. i questioned him from the first signs of the relationship going down cuz why would i want to fool myself and think that everything was fine? i could be making myself ready to meet someone that would appreciate me. anyway having this attitude really made it clear to my ex that he couldn’t treat me bad. we are single-but staying in contact-i’m not calling him and am trying to fall OUT OF LOVE WITH HIM, because he has clearly shown me and told me that now he doens’t want to be in a relationship with me. i told him that only email is the way to contact each other. i’m taking care of myself, exercising, keeping myself happy, not wailing over him because i’m not looking to him to give me self-worth. sorry i went on, but i was like all you girls here 3 years ago. and now in my relationship i’m a different person. good luck and i truly hope that you guys work it out with guys who love you and show you that, or find guys who have learned the lesson to treat their women right!
i fink my partner is falin out of love with me we have been together for 3 yrs we have a 1 yr old togetehr an im 7 months pregnante we argu alot we dnt spend n e tym togther on the nites he doesnt want to watch telly wid me he wud rather play on his xbox we dnt even have sex n e more if i ask for a hug or summut i cn c is his face he doesnt want to yet if i ask him if i love him he says yes but i dont fink he does i am only 19 wat chud i do do u fink he loves me
I was in a relationship with my bf for 4 years. This last year I noticed that things were changing and I asked him to be up front with me. I assured me that nothing was wrong. Well, he broke up with me said he was very depressed, when the entire time he was cheating. Yes I cried, begged, made a fool of myself. But rest assured, I am in a better place right now because I don’t feel jittery and anxious wondering if he is cheating or if he is lying. There is a positive side to a breakup: I could have been dumped five or ten years from now and still have to suffer the same hurt. I’m moving on and I understand that we were never meant to be in a relationship with each other.
I feel utterly rubbish my bf of 2 yrs dumped me yesterday. I had a job interview and he said he needed to see me before. I missed it and went to him and found my stuff at the bottom of the stairs packed up..he’d been unemployed for our whole relationship and recently he got a job I dunno if he’s met someone or not its driving me crazy or maybe he just used me for money. He’s telling me he doesn’t love me even told me to sell my engagement ring. I’ve given my life for him given up all my friends even quit my job today as i’m so upset have nothing now. Not only this immense stress but the doctor thinks i have an anxiety disorder and depression. I don’t know what to do.
Last year a new boy i met said he was madly in love with me. When i saw him i had absolutely NO feelings for him, even as a friend. He asked me out within a week and i said yes, so i wouldn’t hurt his feelings. I made my friends crash the date so he wouldn’t ask me out again. After that he hated me for about a year. I had had enough and decided to stop fighting with him. When he stopped being so immature, he wasn’t that bad. We started to hang out more and before i knew it, i had fallen in love with the person i used to hate. Now he says he has absolutely no interest in me and says he loves this other girl. I was and still am heartbroken. He doesnt even acknowledge my presence anymore. Although he NEVER talks to the girl he clams he likes now, I am still very upset because whenever i do talk to him, its always on MSN. He always has his webcam up so i can see him, but i realize that i always have to start the convo’s and he always ends them. He cares more about his Gaming system than me. What should i do now?
My boyfriend told me last night that he’s having doubts about us. He didn’t say we were breaking up, and we acted normal, affectionate, and cutesy in front of our friends as we hung out in a group. He also asked me to stay the night, which I did. We were as affectionate as we ever are, and had great sex. And in the morning we cuddled as we normally do as well. I went home earlier than usual, because I don’t know where the ‘line’ is to be drawn. I don’t want us to break up. He says he’s been unsure for a month or so, but he’s been absolutely fine and happy when we’re together. He’s been distant when we’re not with each other though – especially with contact (texts, messages, etc.). Has anyone been in this situation? I have no idea where he’s going to go. I don’t want to lose him. I fear I will.
Ellin, I’m going through the same thing, but he did break up with me. In tears. Said that he since he had doubts, he saw an end. And since he saw an end, he didn’t see himself marrying me and there was no point in continuing because it will be that much harder to break up. Everything was great, we had a great relationship. He even said so. That he was confused why he was feeling that way because we get along so well, he loves spending time with me, and have great chemistry. But no. He’s gone and I’m a mess. He was distant for the last 2 weeks before, not calling as much and when he did no voice mail, and his response to texts was short or not at all.
Hi
All these stories sound soo familiar! I have been with my bf for 7 months now (which I know doesn’t seem long). At first he seemed so into me and always wanted to spend time with me, despite us living quite far apart. He was always initiating meeting and always doing sweet things like leaving teddies on my desk at work (we work in the same place).
These days I can never get him to commit to a plan with me yet he can always commit to gaming with his friend or meeting up with others, which makes me feel really rejected. He’s always trying to re-assure me and tell me that he loves me and wants me but it doesn’t feel that way to me which upsets me and then we argue. I always thought we were meant to be together even before I knew him as we had very similar personalities but these days it’s seems like i’m so distant from him and I don’t know why.
I feel like he’s pushing me to the point of leaving him and sometimes I nearly reach that point, but then can’t go through with it as I love him and feel like I regret it.
Is this just a phase he’s going through or does he really not care anymore?
Hi …
A have a sad story…. Hmmm my G.F. want’s to Break up with me But I wont let him i told her i would die if i lost her… then almost every 2 days we fight about something that i said but i dnt really mean saying it.. its just a joke for me but i told her that’s only a joke but she still keep pushing me away… then after wards … we got separated after 3 mounths… We all ways Txt each other and call i always buy her load so i can contanct her… then after a few days we broke up… she said im in so much pain because of u!!! lier u told me that u wont hurt me any more… i have given u so many chances but what did u do u jst ignore them and now your saying that u wont hurt me anymore… idont believe u sry…. but if i told here i would die … she said i will still broke up with you pls dont die promise me pls even if u didnt got all ur promises done just this one’s pls do commit suicide… ok!!!
she said ok…. but after that i hurt her again and now i told her give me 1 more chance i will nvr hurt u and i will set u free if i have hurt u again…. then after a few days i hurt her… now i told her everything were about to do something then badluck strikes… it didnt happen then she told me i will nvr do it to u u wasted ur chance today… il just find other guys to do it with…
then after wards cant sleep all nyt ,,, then i talk to her can we be friends and can u still be my GF then she said maybe….
then 1 week have past she got home here and i escorted here to her house…. then we talk and i said im sry pls forgive me i will nvr do it again i dont want 2 lose u again,,, then i said i love u,,,, then she said i love u 2… but i didnt reallize that were ON again then the nxt day we go to a park then i she got bored of me and ran off then i told her i will w8 for u here,,,, but i cant w8 i still followed her… then i told her do u love me… then she wanted to broke up with me again im so confuse i thought she is not mine anymore but i told her… i dont know yet if were ON im sry give me a chance then after a long talk lol i cried so much
What does this means Doenst she loves me anymore????
i nid help pls!!!
im a man but i let her dominate me coz i love her but whats happening T_T help pls Thx
no she told me u promise that u will let me go i u hurt me again my life will be in hell if im with u so pls let me go… if u dont i will comit suicide what shall i do pls help
she gve me some rule now that i have to obey but
does she still love’s me T_T
she is my first and last love i told here so many time and when i said i love u she has no repounse T_T help pls
i have been in a relationship for almost a year now and things have been great but recently it seems like every fight i have with my boyfriend ends with him telling me that it is over and me beging him to take me back even though he was the who was wrong,i really dont know whats going on.
I have been seeing my boyfriend for appoxmently for 2 and half months but we have known eachother for about 3 months. I love this man to Death. He has a Child and I have a child from Previous realationships. Well Just last week he found out that he is being deployed to Afganastan. I know we can handle the distance and that doesnt concern me, he has said that he wants to have another child when he comes home 18-22 months from now. But now out of no where are phone calls are getting shorter, as his deployment gets closer May 15 2010. My heart is literally breaking because I do love him and his daughter so much, Iam just not sure if this is ushual for men or women when they are getting ready to leave for this type of reason.
I was 20 and he was 35 when we met. Well we got married in june 2009 and we have been together for almost 1 or 2 and now we have a 2 month old son. We fell in love very quickly. To be honest I have depression issues and sometimes its my fault for the argueing we do. I just found out that he has been cheating on me with several yes probably more than 10 possibly a whole lot of different women. He has talked to women at his job and he still talks to his ex girlfriends. I have never cheated on him. He has tons of pics of naked women on his phone. I’m thinking he’s either a sex addict, a narcissist or just having a midlife crisis. He has told me on several occasions to kill myself and that I’m a f***ing retard and that I’m stupid and ugly and now I feel emotionally drained. He calls me a loser even though I have some friends and tries to make new ones. I’m stressed to the point to where I have migraines. I’m scared he’s going to give me a disease. He won’t use a condom because he says that it won’t feel the same. I honestly feel like commiting suicide. He’s so distant towards me. He gives me sex sometimes but shows me different tecniques I have never done with him. He harrasses me about giving him a bj but I told him when he stops asking I will give him oral. Me and him have been in several physically abusive fights even when I was holding my son he punched me in my arm several times. I have on video him hitting me and verbally abusing me and I have on burned disk all the women he slept with.
My boyfriend for 1year broke up with me, I beeged and cryinh and kept constantly foning and texting him -foolish of m.
Anyway, he finally spoke to me and asked to see me, I went over to his flat, we sat watching a movie talking like everything was normal.
But not once did he kiss me or touch me. It got to me but I didn’t let it show, we carried on talking and laufing.
However, when I went home he didn’t even call me or txt me to see if I got home ok.
I need help ASAP… I want to know if his makin a fool of me, if he is playing with me heart.
Is he tryna punish me for the silly argument we had or has he lost interest in me?!?