How To Change Into A Confident New You
You are an easygoing person who can compromise. You are known as the mediator. You also know most of the time you will not argue to get your way. Yet even with these good qualities, most of the times you feel like people tend to walk all over you. To make the changes to put a stop to the misuse of people calls for a plan of action.
Make a list of the reasons you want to change. The reasons need to be your personal reason and not what anyone else may have told you need to be done. Examples of the reasons may include, “to be appreciated more” or “to stop people for taking advantage of me just because I am nice.” Change for you instead of others since it will be more beneficial in time. Once you have created a list containing at least five reasons, share them with a friend who you can share your plans. It always helps to have someone in your life that is supportive and will offer guidance for the times you will possible backslide on the changes.
Realize to become assertive requires time to make the adjustments in your life as well as practice. Practice your techniques in front of a mirror. Say the things you want to say and watch your posture when you are talking. Make sure to speak clearly and slowly. Avoid fidgeting and stammering. Practicing will make you comfortable. To add to the comfort, practice in front of your friend. At first, it will feel awkward, yet that is normal. Take the time to get comfortable with the new you so practice until you reach a level of comfort.
When you are comfortable with the new changes, present the new you to the world. It is important to follow your plan of action to be assertive. The night before implementing your plans, get a good amount of sleep. The day of the new you, dress for success. The way you dress increases your confidence.
Do not take on more than you can handle with the new you. Take little parts of your life to make the assertive changes. Use the smaller areas to build to the larger areas. An example of a smaller area is a time someone wants to do something together where you honestly do not want to do or will enjoy, make a point of expressing your feelings that something both of you will enjoy instead.
Do not back down from your decisions. If someone does not appreciate, your efforts to change then most likely they are not worth your time in the first place. Remember even though you have made the decision to be more assertive and avoid others taking advantage of you, it will still happen occasionally and you do not have the right to treat anyone as you were once treated. No one likes a person that is a tyrant. Be respectful when being assertive.
